Well, so I’m in that time of my life: when a lot of friends, friends’ friends, frenemies and people my age I happen to know start getting married and having kids (not necessarily in that order). To be honest it started a few years ago, when I finished uni. A friend of mine was just counting the last days of the semester to jump into her wedding dress. As soon as she got her diploma she ran to get married. That was just the beginning… it was weird referring to her as a “Mrs.”, instead of a “Miss” (not that she was a “Miss” in THAT sense, but she was single). Was. Now we referred to her boyfriend as her husband! It sounded all grown-up… but to me, it sounded plainly wrong. Why should anyone would mary before 30? In these last four years I have found many many answers to that question. Here are some of them:
1. To never worry for money… basically live from your partner: To be fair, this is less common nowadays because really, who can survive with just one income? Let alone in a developed country when women work not because everyone believes they are entitled to, but because otherwise they would be starving… and well, taking into account that millions of households depend on just a parent, being a parasite is not really an option anymore. Though, I have known many cases…
2. Just because your parents really want to see you married: and as in your very traditional family your own wishes worth nothing and you are brave as a snail, well… you do what you have to do.
3. Because you want a visa: Yeah globalisation is right here, and it doesn’t only mean that we can enjoy an Italian risotto with Spanish chorizo and an American Coke for dinner. It also means we can marry foreigners, and we can scape our own developed countries. I know sometimes love just strikes and the most sensible thing to do is marry to stop the stupid immigration office to curtail your love. But as cynic as I am, I reckon most of the international marriages have little to do with love and more with finding a scape route. Ask the Cubans! So, if you really really want to scape from your reality, you can spend all the money your parents have been saving for years to go to Europe under the false pretence you are going to study, but with the firm resolution (thank you mom, for always supporting my decisions) to marry a European. It doesn’t matter if s/he is a loser, a drug addict, a drunk… s/he is EUROPEAN! It doesn’t matter either if you go and live in the middle or nowhere… (think for example on all those weird Ryanair destinations) and you spend the rest of your life pocking your eyes out of boredom… is EUROPE! It doesn’t matter either if your parents are newly poor… they will have EUROPEAN grand-children for God sake!
4. You are reaching certain age: Well, I’ve met people who have always dreamt of getting married before certain age. I don’t know if they internalised Disney movies or some American TV series, but they would consider themselves losers if they don’t get married before their 20-something birthday… and they think they are almost having their grand-children if they don’t procreate before 30. Well, there’s people who is very persistent, you know. They may not have found the love of their lives, they may have been using their parents’ mortgage to pay for the wedding, they may even amidst complete desperation being marrying a member of their family: but at least they have accomplished their ultimate goal. They are getting married before they reach 20-something, pewww!








Josh Raynolds/AP


